Art and science of Forgiveness Congratulations! If you have ever said “Sorry” to anybody in your life so far. It needs lots of courage to do so. When we truly realise our mistakes, we generally seek forgiveness of others but can we forgive others easily? We hold grudges against others for so long for past non-favourable events, and we love them though they are burdens in our life. We don’t want to drop them for this life time and even many lives times for some cases. This is called unforgiveness state. There are two reasons we have such unforgiveness state. Self-righteousness Being unwilling to forgive  People who mistreat others were mistreated for sure. Such people may have painful childhood and they pay cost in their present life too, by mistreating others. Understanding other’s pains offers willingness to forgive others easily. When you do so, that doesn’t mean you allow them to harm and destroy you all the time. Two way you can protect yourself from such behaviour Offer unconditional love to such people, love has magical power. It heals all wounds. Move away from some toxicity being loving to others, not being resign or victimised. We need to learn to protect ourself and understand others’ emotions too during journey of life.