This episode is inspired by a question from a crossdresser but we hear many people in the kink community talk about the impulse to throw away sex toys and other kinky things. Why? Well, anyone who is into things that aren’t considered ‘mainstream’ can feel the wrong kind of shame or fear of being discovered by family, friends or work associates.The Femdom hosts will share personal stories of self-acceptance as kinky dominant women and how this podcast started as a way to dispel myths about BDSM, kink, and feminization.This includes conversations about how crossdressing can give someone access to feelings or behavior that aren’t accepted when in guy mode.This episode covers emotional or psychological questions like:Why does someone who loves women want to crossdress or act like a woman?Does throwing out everything related to your feminization or kink ever work?Will a decision to stop being a sissy ever last long term?Why does the urge to crossdress come back even stronger after purging?Is there a way to process the guilt or come to terms with the wrong kind of shame associated with something that is a huge part of your psyche?For those into sissy play and feminization, the binge and purge cycle can run into thousands of dollars and causes endless frustration. How to avoid the urge to purge?Practical tips include:Understanding why you want to dress in women’s lingerie or women’s clothes.How to identify when societal teaching is needlessly holding you back.Learning when and why you want to dress in order to identify where you are in your cycle.How to find a community that will accept and support you.How to put away rather than throw away - ie get a storage locker!If you’ve ever felt alone in your desires, this episode is for you. You’re not alone, you’re not crazy and we get it!Ms Olivia’s blog Experienced MistressMs Erika’s blog Intelligent Phone FantasyFree adult social networking site Enchantrix Empire